Active listening and your teenager; what is active listening?

 

Active listening’ means actively listening – fully concentrating on what is being said rather than just passively ‘hearing’ the message of the speaker. Active listening involves listening with all senses.  As well as giving full attention to the speaker, it is important that the ‘active listener’ is also ‘seen’ to be listening. Active listening not only means focusing fully on the speaker but also actively showing verbal and non-verbal signs of listening. Generally speakers want listeners to demonstrate ‘active listening’ by responding appropriately to what they are saying. Appropriate responses to listening can be both verbal and non-verbal.

You can actively listen by:

  • getting close to your child when they are speaking
  • giving your child your full attention
  • allowing your child to talk and not interrupting them
  • avoiding questions that break your child’s train of thought
  • focusing on what your child is saying rather than thinking about what you’ll say next
  • looking at your child so they know they are being heard and understood
  • showing your child that you’re interested by nodding your head and making comments like ‘I see’, ‘That sounds hard/great/tricky …’ and so on.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

Teen behaviour; how to encourage good behaviour in teens — spend time together, share your feelings and stay connected.

 

Good behaviour in teenagers starts with positive communication and a warm relationship. With a little help, you can find ways to encourage good behaviour in your teen. Consider some practical tips on spending time together with your teen, sharing your feelings and staying connected.

  1. Spend time together. Spending time together, having fun and giving help and support are vital to maintaining a positive relationship with your teen and encouraging good behaviour.
  2. Telling your child honestly how his behaviour affects you can help your relationship. ‘I’ statements can be a big help here. For example, saying ‘I really worry when you don’t come home on time’ will probably get a better response than ‘You know you’re supposed to ring me after school!’
  3. You can stay connected with your child by spending special and enjoyable time together. The great thing is that sometimes the best moments are casual and unplanned, like when your child decides to tell you about her day at school over the washing up. When these moments happen, try to stop what you’re doing and give your child your full attention. This sends the message, ‘You’re important to me and I love you’.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

 

 

 

 

Teen behaviour; how to encourage good behaviour in teens — praise your child, plan ahead for difficult conversations and tackle any problems in a positive way

 

Good behaviour in teenagers starts with positive communication and a warm relationship. With a little help, you can find ways to encourage good behaviour in your teen. Consider some practical tips on praising your child, planning ahead for difficult conversations and tackling problems in a positive way.

  1. Praise your child: Descriptive praise and encouragement are powerful motivators. Teenagers might seem self-sufficient, but your child still wants and needs your approval. When you notice and comment on your child’s responsible choices and positive behaviour, you encourage them to keep behaving in that way. Just remember that teenagers often prefer you to praise them privately rather than in front of their friends.
  1. Plan ahead for difficult conversations: When you need to have difficult conversations, it’s a good idea to think ahead about what you’ll say and how your child might feel. This can help you avoid conflict. Arranging a time and place where you can have some privacy also helps.
  1. Tackle problems in a positive way: Whether it’s an argument with your child or a disagreement with your partner, using positive problem-solving skills to sort things out helps to keep you calm. It also gives your child a great example to follow.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

Teen behaviour; how to encourage good behaviour in teens — giving children responsibility, encouraging a sense of belonging but having realistic expectations

 

Good behaviour in teenagers starts with positive communication and a warm relationship. With a little help, you can find ways to encourage good behaviour in your teen. Consider some practical tips on giving children responsibility, encouraging a sense of belonging and having realistic expectations.

  1. Giving children responsibility. Learning to handle responsibility is one of the biggest challenges of adolescence, and an important step towards becoming an adult. Giving your child responsibility in certain areas – like letting him choose his own clothes or hairstyle – can help increase autonomy and independence. It can also help you avoid battles over the little things.
  2. Encouraging a sense of belonging. Family rituals can give your child a sense of stability and belonging at a time when lots of other things around her – and inside her – might be changing. Some families might choose to have Friday family pizza nights, pancakes for breakfast on Sundays, or particular traditions for celebrating birthdays.
  3. Having realistic expectations. Just as you might do, your child will probably slip up and break the rules sometimes. Teenagers and their brains are still under construction – they’re still working out who they are. Testing boundaries is all part of the process, so it helps to be realistic about your child’s behaviour.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

Teen behaviour; how to encourage good behaviour in teens—being a positive role model and encouraging self-reflection

 

Good behaviour in teenagers starts with positive communication and a warm relationship. With a little help, you can find ways to encourage good behaviour in your teen. Consider some practical tips on being a positive role model and encouraging self-reflection.

  1. Try to be a positive role model
    Children – even teenagers – do as you do, so being a being a role model for your child is a powerful and positive way to guide your child’s behaviour. For example, when your child sees you following the family rules yourself, they will see a powerful example. What you doshows your child how you want them to behave. For example, how you cope with feelings like frustration and distress influences how your child regulates their emotions. What you eat, how much you exercise, and how you look after yourself all influence your child. What you say is also important. You can help your child to manage and control their behaviour by talking about how behaviour affects other people. You can also talk more with your child about the differences between right and wrong.
  1. Encourage self-reflection
    If you need to use a consequence, explain why you’re doing it. This gives your child the chance to reflect on what they could change to stop the problem coming up again. For example, you could say something like, ‘I get worried when you stay out late without telling me what you’re doing. Next time, I’ll pick you up at 10 pm. What could you do differently next time so you don’t get a consequence?’ Follow up by asking your child what a fair consequence would be if it happens again.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

Teen behaviour; how to encourage good behaviour in teens—active listening and setting rules and boundaries

 

Good behaviour in teenagers starts with positive communication and a warm relationship. With a little help, you can find ways to encourage good behaviour in your teen. Consider some practical tips on active listening, setting rules and boundaries.

  1. Take time to actively listen
    Actively listening means paying close attention to what your child is saying and feeling, rather than thinking of what you want to say next. This shows your child that you care and that you’re interested. Take your teen seriously when you’re talking with them. Your child is an individual and they need to know that they’re valued, accepted and respected for who they are. One way to do this is by taking their developing ideas and opinions seriously, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.
  2. Set clear rules and boundaries about behaviour
    Family rules make expectations about behaviour clear. If you can, involve all family members in the discussions about rules. Try to keep the rules positive. For example, instead of saying ‘Don’t be disrespectful,’ you could say, ‘We speak to each other with respect’. When rules are broken, you can follow up calmly, firmly and consistently. You can do this by using a brief and fair consequence that you and your child have agreed on in advance. It helps if you link the consequence to the broken rule – for example, ‘Because you didn’t come home at the agreed time, you’ll need to stay home this weekend’. This also helps you communicate your expectations about future behaviour.
  3. Choose your battles
    Before you get into conflict over your child’s behaviour, ask yourself, ‘Does this really matter?’ and ‘Is this really worth fighting about?’ Less negative feedback means fewer opportunities for conflict and bad feelings. Remember that everybody makes mistakes, and nobody’s perfect. It’s all about how you deal with mistakes – both your own and your child’s – when they happen. Taking responsibility for mistakes is a good first step, and then working out what you can do to make things better might be your next move. Saying sorry to your child when you make a mistake helps to keep your relationship going well.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

Bonding and attachment with your newborn; what to do when it’s not easy

 

Bonding and attachment is a vital part of the development of your baby and it involves responding to your baby’s needs with love, warmth and care. When you do this, you become a special, trusted person in your baby’s life. You might have bonded with your baby the first time you saw them. But it’s okay and normal if you didn’t feel an instant connection. Bonding and attachment can sometimes take weeks or months of getting to know and understand your baby.

Here are some suggestions to help your bond develop:

  • Take time to enjoy being with your baby. Caring for a new baby can be busy, but it’s good to spend time just being together. For example, you could hold your baby close and read to them in a sing-song voice. They’ll love hearing your voice, even if you’re reading your favourite magazine or newspaper.
  • See the world from your baby’s perspective. Imagine what they’re looking at, feeling or trying to do. Discover what they really like and dislike. For example, are they a social baby who doesn’t mind being passed around the family? Or do they prefer to watch what’s going on from the safety of your arms?
  • Be flexible. Most newborns don’t have definite day and night sleep patterns. This means it isn’t realistic to expect your newborn to follow a strict routine. It’s best to respond when your baby wants to feed, sleep or play.

Phoenix Rising for Children

Phoenix Rising For Children (PRFC) are accredited by The Office of The Children’s Guardian, peak government body in NSW for child protection. PRFC was established in 2001 and are experienced in provision of specialist services to children and their families for Family & Community Services, Non Government Agencies, Family Law Court Matters and Private Family Agreements. PRFC operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment, and as such we support organisations that encompass similar ideals.

PRFC’s focus is the wellbeing and safety of children while providing parents with opportunities to care for and engage with their children. These visits allow parents to demonstrate relationship and parenting skills.

PRFC’s qualified staff closely monitor contact visits in a supportive and positive way. We understand each family has a unique story and we seek to bring clarity and resolution whilst facilitating a service that is both safe and enjoyable for children and parents.

Phoenix Rising For Children have experience and expertise working with children and families affected by difficult and stressful circumstances.

We provide:

  • In excess of 17 years experience providing supervised
  • contact services
  • Immediate availability to accept family referrals
  • Qualified, experienced professional family supervisors
  • High level of confidentiality
  • 24 hour/ 365 days per year support to clients and personnel
  • Detailed, well written reports appropriate for court matters

 

The services we provide include; supervised family contact, supervised transportation, supervised handover, mentoring and youth work support. We also provide interim supervised contact, pre-requested contact visit meetings between children and supervisors, and detailed contact visit reports.

 

We are contactable in the following ways:

T: 02 9873 3992, 

Write to us at PO Box 71, Oatlands 2117 or

Email: scheduler@phoenixrising.org.au

Learn more about our services at www.phoenixrising.org.au

 

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